In Our Three Level House
we awaken, we take responsibility for our lives. We learn to do the
right thing instead of doing things right. We learn to live by the
cardinal rule for peace and happiness. It comes in the form of a
commandment. We are instructed to love God and our neighbor as ourselves
with our minds, hearts, and souls. This injunction means that we are
responsible for fulfilling it. It is not done for us. To understand
how to activate this threelevel love, picture your consciousness as
the three level house illustrated on the right. In this blueprint of
your being, the ground floor is your conscious, rational, cognitive
self, found primarily in the left hemisphere of your brain. It is your
masculine mentality. The oriental equivalent is the “yang” of the
Yin/Yang concept. If you are learning its function from a “men are
men, women are women” perspective popularized by John Gray in his book
“Women Are From Venus, Men Are From Mars,” it is the capital of
Mars. As explained in our earlier discussion, it is everyone’s “Son
of God” responsibility level, where we explore, learn and access the
will which originates on the top floor. It is your fact collection
center and should be the level of reason.
and Irrational Reason
the ego uses this part of the mind as an illusion collection center and
in this role the intellect or reason is used to be unreasonable.
“Reasoning” without the direction of the Holy Spirit fabricates
rational explanations for unforgiveness, lovelessness and fear. These
blinding emotions are carefully disguised by logical argument. “So I
may be treating them mean. But they deserve it!” or “I could never
forgive them after what they have done!” These arguments attempt to
legitimize loveless behavior. They make the Great Commandment the Great
Pipedream. Without the protective function of our Inner Advisor, love is
logically evaded. This leads to a lethal arrogance and the most
brilliant of minds are best at it. When they refuse to humble themselves
enough to seek guidance, their brilliance becomes a dark irrelevance.
is strewn with the rubble of their thinking: the Arian Nazi philosophers
who justified genocide in the last century; Christian theologians
advocating killing the infidel Muslims in the middle ages; the Muslim
theologians advocating the killing of infidel Christians today; the
great thinkers certain the world was flat before the 15th century; the
great modern thinkers who are certain the world of humankind will remain
forever divided. All such foolishness in time will be relegated to
insignificance, swept into the dusty limbo of a forgotten past.
Fortunately, when we are ready, the Universe will teach us both the
Nobility of Volitional Forgiveness
will, although it originates in the top floor in your sacred Self,
resides on the ground floor. This divine force has the power to overrule
any destructive pattern or emotion making the conscious mind an
effective tool in the implementation of love and forgiveness. It removes
forgiveness from the unpredictable and unmanageable region of the
basement, your emotional subconscious. On the ground floor you are in
charge. On this conscious level, love is a masculine act of the will; it
is not touchyfeely: To love with the mind is to will the highest
and best for the offending party. In premarital counseling I
point out that this is a priceless gift of the groom for his bride. As
unconditional love is the woman’s essential gift to marriage and
motherhood, responsible love is the man’s. This quality is seen
primitively expressed in a man’s tendency to remain glued to football
games on television when his wife can think of at least a dozen more
important things he could be doing. This male focus, however, if raised
to the level of conscious love and forgiveness, can be a marriage
Will As A MarriageSaver
masculine, in men or women, is goal oriented. Men just tend to have a
larger dose of it. Winning looms large in the male psyche: Get across
that goal line. Score those winning points. In marriage, the will can
shift this quality to a redemptive level. I remind the man about to
start a lifejourney with a woman that his goal is to be happily
married assuring him that there will be times, hopefully few, when he
isn’t even going to like the beautiful bride beside him. He will
seriously think “This marriage was a mistake.” or “I wish I were
single or married to someone else.”
is when his ego, like a three hundred pound lineman, will stand between
himself and his goal. The only thing that can power him through to the
goal line is his will. His will to love, his will to forgive can make it
happen. To will his bride’s highest and best, knowing with singleness
of mind without emotional support that it is his highest and best too,
triggers marriagesaving miracles more certainly than anything else he
can bring to marital conflict.
beyond behavior demands an initial miracle. We are behavior oriented. To
see a good person demonstrating “bad” behavior seems to require
suspension of rational judgment. The real requirement is that we suspend
all judgment, realizing that we always define someone with the limited
and inaccurate facts at our disposal.
uranium was defined as, a rare, white metallic element, of little
practical value. Time and nuclear scientists totally reevaluated its
worth in E=mc2.
All scientists had that the metallurgists did not was the capacity to
comprehend what they were seeing. That is what forgiveness brings to
our vision. Judged superficially, an enemy is an enemy. But your soul
contains another vision, one that can transform an antagonist into a
friend. The worthless becomes priceless. Forgiveness makes us miracleworkers.
learned this in her marriage. Speaking to a conference at the
beautiful Wilderness Y.M.C.A. Convention Center on Lake Chalan,
Washington, her husband gave me the details of their marriage miracle.
In the morning lecture I explained the void Alcoholics Anonymous filled
in a toxic spiritual environment. Before its creation, alcoholics had
nowhere to go for needed healing support. Social institutions such as
service clubs and the Church or Temple didn’t welcome drunks who were
still drunks. The tacit and often stated message to them was, “Sober
up. Clean up your act. Get religion and throw away the booze. Then we
will welcome you.” A.A. changed all of that. Now there were groups
committed to nononsense, tough love. They welcomed every
“hopeless” drunk willing to walk the walk with them to sobriety.
a break in the program, I was sitting on the lawn overlooking the lake.
Julie’s husband, a tall, ruggedly handsome man, sat down beside me.
I knew him and his wife from earlier workshops. He made some affirmative
comments about the lecture and then added, “But, Cliff, I’m an
alcoholic who found sobriety without A.A.” I pondered his statement.
The reason seemed clear. “My guess is that your wife had a lot to do
with your recovery. Your
love for each other is so obvious. Julie is a beautiful woman and her
faith in God is deep.” “You hit it,” he replied. “She had everything
to do with it. I don’t know how many times I came home dead drunk; I
even tore up the house once. When I’d pass out, my wife and two
teenage daughters would clean me up and drag me into bed. Every time
I’d wake up the next morning, Julie would greet me with, ‘It’s
nice to have the real you back.’”
was not codependent denial. She willed within her pain to see beyond
his bagperson behavior. She looked beyond the ego’s evidence and
embraced a vision of the man she loved. She saw the Godimage at the
core of his being. Her will power created forgiveness without selfpity.
The Light this attitude generated shone on his drunken shadow totally
destroying it. Most alcoholism has its roots in childhood, in a heavy
diet of do’s and don’ts, a parental demand for success and rejection
from one or both parents. The mix of the two messages Measure up and
You don’t measure up leaves the child with the feelings of hopelessness
and selfloathing. The antidote is the reverse of those feelings, Hope
and Love. They must be administered faithfully without buying into the
alcoholic’s insanity. The drunken traumadrama requires that the
spouse or friend move “outside the box.” Consciously or
unconsciously embracing the truth in the Serenity Prayer they accept the
things in the drunk they can’t change: drunkenness; they change the
things they can change: their attitude. Attitude is changed by the will.
And the wisdom to know the difference is received through the Voice for
the superficial observer loving with your will seems drab and
unappealing. This is not the case; it is noble and powerful. It can move
you out of stuck, unforgiving misery when nothing else can. Loving
with your will determines your destiny. It empowers you to choose
whether you create a heaven or a hell for yourself. Only a
“sleeping” fool would neglect the discipline of loving with the
Forgiveness and Love
move now from the ground floor to the basement, your subconscious. Here
we will consider the function of three of its rooms. Actually there are
hundreds of “rooms,” but we will focus on only three.
Computer Room: Home Of Our Perceptions
first is the Computer Room, constructed within the ten billion memory
cells on the cortex of the brain. You have been sitting in this room,
typing in perceptions since about the second trimester in the womb.
Psychiatrists Stanislav Grof and William Varney in independent studies
have collected a mountain of evidence supporting the fact that we
remember with remarkable vividness our life in the womb and our
mothers’ emotions while carrying us. To these earliest perceptions are
added what we receive from the Collective Unconscious. This information
source is a pool of universally held beliefs and myths to which every
mind is connected. (The Collective Unconscious is depicted as the
“bulletin board” of the Three Level House.) This perceptioncollection
process continues with expanded and deepened significance after birth
our mental computer three impressions are being formed: what mother and,
therefore, womanhood, is like; what father and, therefore, manhood is
like and what we perceive relationship to be like. The bulk of our
emotional experiences throughout life are predetermined and colored by
these three information fields. As we have already seen, our Shadows are
formed by the dark perceptions recorded in this room.
Shadows are the product of unhealthy mother perceptions. The ideal
mother is like 98.6 degrees on a thermometer. She is very simply a
normal mother. However, as Eric Fromm observed, “We suffer from the
pathology of normalcy;” we accept the abnormal as normal.
Consequently, we serve our children poorly with this kind of sloppy
emotional quality control. In Chapter 8 we will pursue the “how” of
the correction process. Here we will concern ourselves with the
definition of normal and erasure of the shadowed abnormal.
IdealNormal Mother List
idealnormal mother would be perceived as possessing the following
LOVE (the primary gift of a
to her child.)
WARM AND AFFECTIONATE
CHILD AND HUSBAND
EFFECTIVE NONVERBAL COMMUNICATOR
love, nurture and spirituality
the list could be expanded, but these qualities are basic. During the
first ten to twelve years our focus is mainly on mother. If we are
blessed with one with the qualities listed, we are off to a good
toward our teen years, mother dominance ideally yields to focus on
father. Although we have been recording father perceptions before this
period, now they are critical to growth into maturity.
IdealNormal Father List
idealnormal father would be perceived as possess
these qualities: RESPONSIBLE LOVE (the primary gift of a father to his
adolescent child.) SPIRITUAL GOAL ORIENTED (strength and commitment to
get appropriate things done.) CHERISHES WIFE AND CHILD EMOTIONAL
STABILITY VERBALLY COMMUNICATIVE (essential for the maturing
again, if you perceived your father as having these qualities, you were
blessed. If your mother and father related with warmth and affection
to each other and you, your emotional picture is even brighter. Where
any of these qualities seem missing, your Shadows formed around that
Holographic Art Room What We See In Ourselves
are two additional rooms involved in the perception process as shown
in the paradigm. The next is the Holographic Art Room. Here you picture
in threedimensional “live” imagery what mother/woman is like and
what father/man is like. Like a feedback loop, they play out their
relationship on this high tech stage in your subconscious. In this room
you transform the negative pictures to positive, the subject of Chapters
Eight and Nine. These depicted emotions, negative or positive, then are
brought over to the third room.
Projection Room What We See In Others
Projection Room is where you project these impressions onto your
“objective” relationships, the world “out there” as you see it.
However, there is nothing objective about what you think you are seeing.
All significant relationships at home, at school, in social, religious
or business circles are people who act as projection screens. On them,
you project the emotional images composed by your early recorded
Erases Shadow Images
negative impressions are exposed by negative relational experiences,
forgiveness has the function of the eraser head on a VCR. To the
degree you give sufficient power to the process, the old images are
erased. Only then can new images be composed to replace the Shadow
images. Because old negative images neutralize attempted positive
replacements until they are eliminated through forgiveness.
“X” Factor In Perception
perception process contains one cryptic element not found within the
function of the three rooms. Occasionally parents will have a positive
or negative quality and you won’t even see it. This is not denial as
found in neurosis. You are just impervious to the virtue or weakness. It
has no effect on you. Or, likewise, you may have a “gift” or Shadow
your emotional world can’t explain because either Bulletin Board
material (The Collective Unconscious) or Top Floor input (The Soul)
overrides the conventional mental mix. It is this “X” factor that
makes each child different. Every parent of more than one child has
seen characteristics in one not present in another. The “X” factor
caused little Ludwig in the Beethoven family to write sonatas at the age
of five. His siblings were not so gifted; all but two were so miserably
sick and frail that they died in childhood. The two that survived had
none of the genius of their famous brother. The “X” factor
differences are numerous and profound. Neither nurture nor nature can
explain them. The “X” factor in each person is one more reason why
our judgments of another are so myopic and wrong.
with one’s heart eliminates such judgment. It loves others “as
is.” It arises from the warmth one heart shares with another. The
flame or ember, kindled by a parent or a friend, was passed on to you.
The love they gave you, whether they did so consciously or not, came
from God, the Source of all love. As you share it, it grows brighter,
more consuming. It is a medical fact that if a baby is denied this
emotional love it will physically die. Withhold it from anyone out of an
unforgiving spirit and your heart begins to die. Embrace your enemy
“out there” and you befriend the part of you that feels unloved; the
part of your heart that feels and is not happy with what it feels. As
you share your loving feelings they neutralize your negative emotions.
Your world becomes lighter
analysis, psycho or otherwise, is necessary for the application of such
love. The little smile, the small act of kindness, the word of
appreciation or encouragement toward anyone expands your own sense of
love. The uglier the behavior of one your heart embraces, the greater
the emotional and spiritual payback. This is why Jesus said, “Bless
those who curse you...;” his instruction is practical not sentimental.
He had no room for sentiment. The quickest way to learn to emotionally
fly is to give this kind of love to another.
As you give it, you receive it. It becomes the wind beneath your
wings. With the emotion of love motivating your life, no emotional
obstacle can remain an obstacle.
God With Your Heart The Entrance To Your Soul
Great Commandment goes on to say that you are also to “love God with
your heart.” Give this quality of love to God and you open your mind
to His presence. The Psalmist described the role of heartlove in these
words: “Enter into His gates with thanksgiving, and into His courts
with praise...” Praise and thanksgiving emanate from the heart and
such heartlove opens you to your soul, the top level of your
consciousness. It is here that the act of forgiveness is lifted to
perfection. This is the eternal residence of your True Self. It always
has been; it always will be. This is the part of your consciousness to
which Dr. Bresler was directing his patients with the affirmation, “I
have a body but I am not my body....
I am. I am. I am.” In perfect constancy this part of you
reflects the God in Whose Image you were created. I sometimes tell those
whom I counsel that it is this level of their consciousness that makes
my job a joy. I don’t have to change them, improve or heal them. I
just help them get rid of the trash in the basement that obstructs their
view of their perfect Self.
constantly reminds us of the primary importance of the body. We are
told to feed, dress and pamper it with endless lists of things that make
it look, feel and function better. Under a barrage of advertisements
and baseless beliefs instilled in us since infancy, we come to believe
that the body is the most important part of our being. It is the least
Mind Dictates Our Condition And Destiny
mind, not the body, dictates our condition and destiny. To understand
this, it is important to make clear the distinction between the mind and
the brain. The brain is simply the body’s limited communication device
for the mind and the body at its best is that of a servant whose role is
to communicate love.
of the inordinate amount of time we spend feeding, clothing,
sheltering and pampering it. This is not to suggest that we become
ascetics living with little concern for bodily needs. Our need is to see
the exaggerated value we have placed on it while ignoring the infinite
value of our soul. The body is absolutely dependent upon the soul. When
the soul leaves, nothing of value remains. Teillhard de Chardin said it
best. “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are
spiritual beings having a human experience.”
Soul’s Agenda From Birth
spiritual beings, in full collaboration with the Councils of Eternity,
we entered life with an agenda. When Ludwig van Beethoven entered the
world, he came to share the music of the spheres; his soul had chosen to
create great music. And he did. But what of his siblings? Were those
blind and deaf children less blessed? From the ego’s perception, the
answer is “Yes.” But from the vision held on the highest level of
your being, the top floor of your consciousness, life is seen very
Bigger Picture reveals that Ludwig and his siblings are equally blessed.
This is the wisdom behind Jesus’ statement, “It is necessary that
offense come, but woe be to the one who brings the offense.” The
offenses we experience from birth, physical or emotional, are necessary!
In the Cave of our consciousness, such a statement sounds like
insensitive nonsense. But not so to the awakened, Caveliberated
mind. The soul knows that the consciousness it
activates within a particular body came to learn lessons. It
knows we have drawn specific offenders to us so that we may learn
through them. You will remain confused and troubled when you see
“bad” things happening to good people until you recognize that we
prearrange what we encounter in life. Don’t blame God. God is love.
That love has only one goal: to set you free from all suffering. Pain is
never a product of God’s action. It is selfmade, and we will be released from it the moment
the adversary behind our adversity is embraced. Once we are ready to
forgive the “offenders,” and recognize them as teachers in dark disguise,
a spiritual alchemy transforms our base feelings of sorrow and anger
Willing To Be Made Willing To Forgive
the larger soul picture, it is relatively easy to forgive any offense.
The dicey part is to get beyond our conditioned responses. Like the
man who said to me recently, “I will never forgive my wife!” I asked
him if he was willing to forgive her. He said, “No.” I assured him
that such a hardened position guarantees pain and bitterness. “Are
you willing to be made willing?” I asked. “I can do that,” was
his response. That is all it takes. Sincerely held, it is the movement
necessary to activate the miracle of a soul illumined vision.
begin the process tentatively and test the water before diving in. Our
willingness causes the pain to subside. Then we hear a joyous melody, a
song so beautiful our tortured tears are soon forgotten. When the
molested boy looked back as an adult and saw his father’s childhood
agony, his grief evaporated like a meadow’s mist before a rising sun.
The bitter man now could shed tears of compassion for his father. That
is forgiving with one’s heart and soul. What began as effective but
unfeeling, willdirected forgiveness became an exultant sense of wellbeing.
is easy, even popular, to be vengeful and angry. However, there is a
sane part of the human heart that finds forgiving heartlove
contagious. Perhaps this is why Abraham Lincoln is our most honored and
had been horrified by the carnage at Gettysburg. The many civil war
blood baths, brothers killing brothers, so ravished his heart that he
felt this battle site was not to be remembered for his speech but for
the five thousand young men slaughtered there in a single day. Reeling
before the demands of presiding over this inhumanity, he denounced all
cries for retaliation. He challenged the nation to hold, “malice
toward none and charity for all....”
Enemies By Making Them Friends
the midst of the conflict, Lincoln respected those who had taken up arms
against the Union. At a banquet he commended the character of the
Confederate general, Robert E. Lee. An angry Washington socialite
scolded, “Mr. President, your job is not to praise the enemy but to
destroy them!” “Madam,” he replied, “do I not destroy my enemies
when I make them my friends?” Such enlightened emotion flowed from an
enlightened heart. His capacity to respond from the heart with love is a
major reason he has been held in such respect and honor in the heart of
Americans. Such magnanimity is daunting. It begins with an intention: a
humble willingness to be made willing to forgive and love with your
Love and Forgiveness
correction takes place on the level of the heart, the basement in the
Three Level House. As I indicated earlier, the power to transform and
live life to the fingertips lies in the soul, the Top Floor. That is
why our guideline for peace and happiness concludes, “Love God and
your neighbor with your soul.” What is soullove? What is the soul,
anyway? Those questions are, in fact, asking, How do you describe the
indescribable? How, when to define means “to make finite,” do you
define the infinite? You don’t. This is the challenge and the gift any
discussion of the soul presents.
can begin to know the soul by determining what it is not. It is not the
body. It does not even occupy the body. The body is simply activated
within its infinite field of energy. When death occurs, nobody has
died. The Something Transcendent we call the soul has withdrawn its
energy from a temporary cabin of clay. That is all.
The Soul In Death
the subject of the soul arises in our workshops I often say, “To
illustrate the reality of the soul it would be helpful if one of you
would die right now.” I’ve never had a volunteer. I point out that
if one of them would die, we could place their body in the middle of our
circle until it reaches room temperature. Then we would see if we wanted
to keep that skinencapsulated bag of flesh and bone around. In any of
these groups there are people in different states of mind. Some are
exuberant, others sad or pensive.
are frightened of life, not the request that they die. Whatever their
emotional condition, there is Something indisputably priceless about
each of them. When that Something withdraws itself from the body, no one
would want to keep it in the circle of the workshop or any other circle
of the living.
have created a whole catalog of methods to keep that Something in the
body. C.P.R., 911, Emergency Rooms, Critical Care Units, medications,
surgery, therapies, diets, vitamins, exercise, all serve one purpose:
to keep the soul in the body as long as possible. As one pessimist
reflected, this makes “good health” just a longer road to death.
When time runs out and the body can no longer house the soul’s energy,
we dispose of it as graciously and appropriately as possible. But we do
dispose of it. It holds no value to us without the soul.
in man’s confusion he so passionately equated life with the body
that bizarre methods have been employed to preserve it. The ancient
Egyptians and the Chinese were skilled at this questionable art form. In
recent history, the Soviet Union attempted to immortalize the wrong
thing, if not the wrong person, when they embalmed the remains of Lenin.
After applying the necessary chemicals, cosmetics and clothing, his
body was placed in a hermetically sealed glass display case. You can
visit it, if you wish. But be assured that nobody has visited Lenin
since he died. He is gone, comrade, as gone as the Soviet Union he
helped to establish. Be equally certain that he is the “soul”
survivor of his body’s death.
Soul’s Worth And Health Maintenance
fearladen desire to forestall the Grim Reaper is understandable...
until we realize that what was reaped was not the person, only the body.
And that is not so grim. Our efforts to sustain health is an affirmation
of the soul’s worth, not the body’s. It makes sense to keep our
bodies healthy as a vehicle for soullove only. The struggle against
death makes sense to the egodriven mind. On the level of the
subconscious, where the will to physically live or die determines with
finality whether we do one or the other, it makes sense. Our fear of
death and our battle against it on the level of the soul makes no sense
at all. Our soul knows with certainty that death does not exist.
Earth As A Classroom
this Upper Room with a View, a new world emerges out of the clouds of
ego ignorance. Here the earth is not a death star consuming all its
inhabitants, but a Classroom where we learn to love, to forgive and
learn to embrace Reality. Here we rediscover what we knew before our
Separationamnesia blotted it out of our memory: that we are one with
God, each other and all creation. It is the place where we are awakened
by the Holy Spirit from a cosmic nightmare as soon as we show the
slightest inclination to wake up. Here, as we begin to awaken, the
vision of our Soul replaces the shadowed perceptions generated out of
our fears. It is in this holy consciousness that forgiveness is seen as
release from dark illusions.
And Soul Transformation
facet of the soul can be seen, however faintly, in the growing chorus of
voices of those who died, left their bodies and subsequently returned to
life. This phenomenon is called a Near Death Experience or an N.D.E.
(However, the radiant messages they convey about the life of the soul
suggests that it would be more accurate to call it a Near Life
Experience.) Academic and scientific study of the N.D.E. began with Dr.
George G. Ritchie, professor of Psychiatry at the University of
Virginia. He gives an account of his death and the journey of his soul
in “Return From Tomorrow.” In his book he takes the reader on a tour into the glorious and mysterious Realm from which the
soul departs at birth. Raymond Moody, as a medical student heard Dr.
Ritchie’s story in the classroom. His first impression was that he
had a crazy man for his professor of psychiatry.
A few weeks and many questions later he was convinced that what
Ritchie had said was worthy of his academic inquiry. The result of Dr.
Moody’s research is the landmark best seller, “Life After Life.” A
whole host of books on the subject followed. A high percentage of these
personal accounts have the word “light” in their titles: Betty Jean
Eadie’s “Embraced By The Light,” Dannion Brinkley’s “Saved By
The Light,” Helen Greaves’ “Testimony of the Light,” and Dr.
Melvin Morse’s “Transformed By The Light.” (This strongly suggests
that there is Light at the end of the Tunnel at the back of our Platonic
personally interviewed over five thousand Near Death subjects and
believes that Brinkley’s story is the most significant. Millions know
of his experience from the motion picture, “The Dannion Brinkley
Story.” His account effectively challenges the doubts of any honest
doubter about the reality of an afterlife or the love of God behind all
life. Dannion, by his own admission, was a selfish, cruel, miserable
piece of humanity. What his soul experienced in a matter of minutes
transformed his life forever. Some scientists have attempted to
explain away the N.D.E. as a neurological event triggered by the decay
of the brain at death. That is intellectually impertinent in light of
the transforming effect of the experience on Brinkley and a host of
witnesses. The N.D.E. researcher, Dr. Melvin Morse, a Seattle,
Washington pediatrician, has focused on the death and resuscitation
experiences of children. He was impressed with the simple, unvarnished
testimonies of these children who had been clinically dead and revived.
Some related how they had gone to a place of beauty and light where they
saw radiant, happy people or angels. All attested to experiencing a
Love so majestic that nothing on earth compares with it. Having
experienced what they did, none wanted to return to the life to which we
cling like starving beggars clutching at crumbs. One such story came to
him after he had been interviewed on a Chicago television talk show.
A teenage boy called him. Dr. Morse learned later that the boy
was from the toughest ghetto in the city.
He said that he had gone through an experience like the ones
Morse had described on the broadcast. Only five when it happened, he had
told no one because he was afraid he wouldn’t be believed. In their
brief phone conversation, Morse knew that the boy’s story had the
characteristics of authenticity. An interview was immediately arranged.
event took place in the “peanut pool” where the child was wading at
the local swimming pool. He was unclear whether he was pushed or cramped
up but he went under the water. His
mother, nearby, didn’t see that he was drowning. He then found himself
in a place of beauty and light; he said he was with Jesus. Feeling an
overwhelming love in his presence, he was happier than he thought anyone
could be. Then he was told he had to return to earth and his body. He
told Morse that his response was an angry tantrum. He did not want to go
back! Gently assured there were reasons for his returning, he was told
he had much to learn and teach. He then felt himself descend through a
mist to the pool, and saw his mother frantically lifting him out of the
water. Next, a lifeguard was compressing water from his lungs. At that
point, he snapped back into his body. When he opened his eyes, he said,
“Momma, I was up there and saw you take me out of the pool....”
“Don’t talk that crazy talk,” she instructed. Until the day he
shared his story with the doctor who confirmed its validity, he had told
no one of his experience.
their continuing conversation, what impressed Morse about the effect of
the boy’s brush with death (correction: with life) was his positive
mental attitude and happiness. Here is this kid living in a hotbed of
hate. Why didn’t he hate whites like his ghetto buddies? Morse asked
him. He responded that because over “There” people aren’t any
color. They are all colors. In his Chicago ghetto, drugs are a way of
life. Why didn’t he use or push drugs? Because over “There” he
recognized that he must never abuse his body or the bodies of others.
Why was he doing so well in school? Because over “There” they told
him that his mind was a gift from God and he needed to grow through
learning. Why didn’t he have any enemies? Because the Love he knew
“There” he wanted to live here.
And Teen Transformation
nature of the soul is seen in its impact on everyday living. Morse
further investigated the effect of the N.D.E. on teenagers who had
experienced their “death” when they were small children.
Consistently, they demonstrated a positive mentality rarely seen in the
average adolescent. They were drug free. They appreciated life. They
showed a care and concern for their parents, even when the parents
were negative role models. None had any fear of death. They knew it did
is not to imply that they all were somehow sainted and didn’t have
emotional issues like other teenagers.
They live by their choices like the rest of us. But they seem to
make those choices from a more confident, aware perspective. Their experience
had opened the eyes of their soul. With this vision, positive, correct
choices came more easily and more consistently.
Love and Forgiveness As A Choice
these youth inherited as graduates of a near death experience is found
in the more mundane moments which lead to the discovery of the soul.
Once again, we are reminded that soullove is a matter of choice.
“You shall love... with your soul.” From domestic disputes to the
Holocaust, we can make the choice to see the sacred in our enemy.
Through prayer, meditation, praise of God, group worship and through
selfless service, we can activate the soul and, therein, move mountains.
Choosing to love and forgive with our soul we will see the worst
transformed into the best.
Forgiveness Finding Heaven In The Holocaust
some could protest that it is cavalier to sit within a safe and
comfortable environment and proclaim that we can forgive someone as
diabolic as the designers of the holocaust and know joy instead of
bitterness. But that is exactly what I am saying. This is why Wild Bill
Cody is one of my souldefining heroes. I’m not talking about the
fellow who shot his way through the wild west. Rather this “Wild Bill”
is a man I met in the pages of Dr. Ritchie’s book. After his near death
experience while in military training in Abilene, Texas, Ritchie was
assigned as a medical tech to the 123rd Evac Hospital Unit. His unit went
with our troops into Germany at the end of World War II where, in their
final advance, they came to a concentration camp near Wuppertal. What he
saw there shocked and sickened him as he moved among hundreds of people
who were walking cadavers. Most of them were Jews from Holland, France and
Eastern Europe. Ritchie had witnessed battlefield trauma, severe,
terminal injuries and death. What most devastated him was to walk
through barracks where thousands of people had endured years of slow,
agonizing brutality, starvation and murder. Many were too emaciated to
recover; food and medication were too little too late. Their death and the
horror of this barbed wire fenceencircled hell began to break his
spirit. In his despair he cried out to God for help. That is when he met
Wild Bill. That wasn’t his real name, of course. A native of Poland, his
name was seven unpronounceable syllables. Because he had a long drooping
handlebar mustache like the original Cody, the G.I.’s christened him
“Wild Bill.” As one of the former prisoners, it was apparent that he
had not been imprisoned very long. His eyes were bright, his posture erect
and he had boundless energy. His uniqueness did not stop with his
appearance. Groups of prisoners sometimes hated each other more than they
hated their Nazi captors and when they clashed, it was usually Cody that
both sides trusted to negotiate a truce. He had a brilliant mind. And
because he spoke fluent English, French, German and Russian as well as his
native Polish, he became the unofficial camp translator.
was invaluable in processing survivors. Ritchie’s primary responsibility
was to return the prisoners, whenever possible, to their homes,
families. Each person required long interviews and mounds of paper work.
Wild Bill enthusiastically worked sixteen hours a day rallying fading coworkers
to keep working. Ritchie was impressed by the man’s compassion for
others. He recalled after an exhausting day and every one was ready to
quit, Wild Bill spoke up, “We have time for this old fellow,” pointing
to an elderly man seated nearby. “He’s been waiting all day to see
Miracle In “An Easy Decision”
turned to astonishment the day Wild Bill’s name came up for processing.
He wasn’t a recent inmate at all. His record stated that he had lived in
this Nazi hellhole since 1939. For six years he had lived in the same
airless, diseaseridden barracks, eaten the same starvation diet as
everyone else and yet did not manifest any signs of mental or physical
deterioration. Why? Ritchie was about to get the answer.
night the subject of the trouble that had broken out in some of the other
camps arose. Liberated inmates after seizing guns from prison weapon
storage, went to nearby villages, killing any Germans they could find. But
in his camp, Wild Bill had quelled all such efforts, reasoning with
different groups, counseling forgiveness.
over mugs of hot tea in the processing center, Ritchie commented to Wild
Bill that it must not be easy for these people to forgive. “So many have
lost members of their family,” he reasoned. Wild Bill, leaning back in
his chair, sipped his tea.“We lived in the Jewish section of
Warsaw....” He spoke slowly. These were the first words Ritchie had
heard him utter about his personal life. “...my wife, our two daughters
and our three little boys. When the Germans reached our street they lined
everyone against a wall and opened up with machine guns. I begged to be
allowed to die with my family, but because I spoke German, they put me in
a work group.” He paused again. “I had to decide right then whether to
hate the soldiers who had done this. It was an easy decision,
really. I was a lawyer. I had seen too often what hate could do to
people’s minds and bodies. Hate had just killed the six people who
mattered most to me in the world. I decided then that I would spend the
rest of my life whether it was a few days or many years
every person I came in contact with.”
Infinite Transforming Love
every person...this was the power that had kept a man well in the face of
every privation,” was Dr. Ritchie’s perceptive conclusion. Through his
awakened soul, Cody had tapped into the essential power of the universe.
Through soul level forgiveness, he had escaped imprisonment while living
in a concentration camp. He found heaven in hell. (The world must learn
what Wild Bill Cody knew or it will perish.) Forgiveness is the secret to
our release from our spiritual solitary confinement. The decision is easy
and the choice is simple. Choose to love and forgive with heart, mind and
soul or live in the shadow of death. Questions and Answers
from Step Two Forgive Your Perceived Shadow Maker:
Why is it that forgiveness is
described as Life’s most important lesson?
Because the very Substance of Life
is Love and unforgiveness fabricates the illusion that we are disconnected
from that Substance. That disconnect is what activates the experience of
death. Unforgive ness is the “parent” of death. Forgiveness alone
destroys that disconnection, restoring our minds to Reality, resurrecting
our souls to Life.
How does modern science assist the
Subatomic and Quantum Physicists
state that there is no objectivity in physical perception. Therefore
judgment drawn from physical sense experience is invalid. Serious
consideration of this fact can open the mind to how subjective our
offended feelings are and, thus, that we must own responsibility for those
feelings instead of blaming our perceived offender.
can I not be happy if I think I’m right and someone else is wrong?
A: Because of the universal law that what we give to another we give to ourselves. The moment I render ~~ (FIX)
If you define a person as a body, your opinion of them will be
determined by appearance or behavior. If, however, you will to see them as
a child of God, their goodness is in who they are not in what they do.
How can I love and forgive someone I don’t like?
You love and forgive with your will. That means that for the person
you don’t like, you will their highest and best regardless of your
feelings about them. Even if you don’t want to forgive (an ego
response), you can will to forgive (a soul response). Let your
will, not emotions, determine your destiny.
is the door to heaven. Unforgiveness is the door to hell. It’s your
choice which door you choose.
Step Three: Form A New Model
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